According to the psychology professor Gopnik, “leaving children alone is not a bad idea” and children are the last thing we need to be controlling. Apparently children need to stop worrying around the tiny little minutes of parenting as it does not make any different on how children turn out of be. Over parenting apparently creates a generation of kids who aren’t really independent.

Gopnik says that there isn’t any formula around parenting its just that parents need to be the gardeners for their children. Let them grow up freely not like those gardeners though who hothouse their plants – vis manipulate or force plants to grow in a greenhouse. Its just to water them adequately and provide the necessary nutrients just like a plant grows in the meadow.

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]]> https://www.vydehischool.com/blog/school/carpenter-or-gardener-what-kind-of-a-parent-are-you/feed/ 0 https://www.vydehischool.com/blog/school/teaching-your-kids-to-be-responsible/ https://www.vydehischool.com/blog/school/teaching-your-kids-to-be-responsible/#comments Mon, 19 Mar 2018 10:17:18 +0000 http://www.vydehischool.com/blog/?p=1344 Continue reading →]]> Teaching responsibility to kids isn’t a cake walk alright, but it is yet to be inculcated at grass root level so that they grow up to become disciplined human beings and citizens. Responsibility, the word however heavy it may sound, needs to be brought forward amongst children in way that it is something that is not a burden but something that gives happiness.

So, its not really about teaching your kids to take up their responsibility but to inculcate in them the values of team work and power of contribution. If we are supportive with them, and guide them through like torch bearers, kids can turnout to be responsible. Here are a few strategies you may put into practice to get the best out of them

I clean. My mess – Before you teach it to your child to be responsible you be responsible yourself. Its like asking a child to organise the toys he or she’s thrown around alongside you yourself arranging your desk or cupboard for that reason. Further you can also help your child with the cleaning work so that you are not

Offer a helping hand – Its not about the kid doing all his or her chores out of compulsion but more about being happy in cleaning up or organizing or contributing to the family. Even if you have to help out the child around twenty thirty times do it.

Let your child take decisions in difficulty – Many of us parents rush to our kids rescue when caught in difficulty

Accountability – Its again starts at home. You make promise to your child, you need to fulfil it. If you are not responsible then don’t expect it from the child.

Motivate. Don’t label – If you see your child is not doing the drill, don’t label him or her off as an irresponsible instead motivate and mould them to be responsible, to take care of their stuff and organization skills.

No Blame Games – Get the blaming each other crap out of your house. Instead inculcate team work. Blaming is the opposite of unconditional love. Therefore takeup a responsibility and do it. Your kid is following your foot steps and would definitely catch up.

As for toddlers you can give them charge of certain decisions like choosing how much to eat, options of eating, not more than two or three. This way they get a choice to decide and do up their responsibility as well.

Having said that, it’s not child’s play to mould your kids into responsible ones and requires a lot of patience, but with dedication it is possible to do so, for sure.

Vydehi School of Excellence aims at carrying out its mission through vigorous involvement of the entire school community by an effective communication structure.

These days we hear a lot about the term inclusive education. Suddenly these alien concepts are the norm in our country and everyone is talking about it.

However, believe me, it is a good thing and this topic needs all the attention it can get.
So let us begin with the classic explanation.

“Inclusive education happens when children with and without disabilities participate and learn together in the same classes. Research shows that when a child with disabilities attends classes alongside peers who do not have disabilities, good things happen”.

Roots of inclusive education can be traced back to the 1950s in USA & Canada where reputed universities experimented with integration of students with severe disabilities pioneered by inclusion teachers, who believe in participatory learning, cooperative learning, and inclusive classrooms.

In India, though we have been approaching inclusion since quite some time, we have a lot to achieve. The society has come a long way from fear, negligence, pity & sympathy towards empathy.

Our constitution provides for education as the fundamental right to all children, but until the recent Right to Education Act, introduced in 2012 schools were at liberty whether or not to grant admission to students with special needs.

Government can make laws and provide infrastructure, but it all depends on the other stakeholders (Schools, Parents, and Teachers) on how we perceive inclusive education & our willingness to take it forward. Reluctance also stems from the fact that inclusive education is a guaranteed high return long-term investment but with very high premium in the short term.

It is not only important to provide infrastructure like ramps, toilets, accessibility to laboratories, playground, etc but also to identify and support children with learning and mental disabilities. Lack of flexibility in curriculum, affordability, being bullied in the class and not getting adequate attention from the teachers are other contributing factors, which stall inclusive education.

We must all understand that “All children can learn” but “All children learn differently” & Special education is not inclusive education.

The Inclusive Education Clause in the RTE Act is an important step in the right direction. It also helps regular kids. When they attend classes that reflect the similarities and differences of people in the real world, they learn to appreciate diversity.

So let us all strive to improve the status of inclusive education within our respective spheres of influence. What begins with a sense of responsibility & compassion culminates in a feeling of pride when the children reciprocate with joy & passion that make our efforts pale in comparison.

Vydehi School of Excellence celebrated the Independence Day on 14^th August 2013, with the eternal favour of patriotism and instilled the importance of being a true Indian in the core, in children.VSE, this time, observed ‘Incredible India’ theme for Independence Day as the salutation to the rich heritage of this country and its real heroes. The celebration lasted almost a week. Principal Mrs. Laly Mathews hosted the National flag and gave a speech laying emphasis on the importance of Independence Day and urged the students to become responsible citizens and prepare themselves to serve the nation as good leader, administrator, engineer, doctor etc.  The flag hoisting ceremony was followed by the speech by the head boy who emphasized the importance of acknowledging the great struggle made by our freedom fighters and the challenges our nation faces today.  He urged the students to be responsible and patriotic citizens and prepare themselves to serve the nation in their individual capacities.

Students were enthusiastic and thrilled to participate in the celebrations and some of them presented colourful skits, sang patriotic songs and recited poems, remembering the heroes of the freedom struggle. The children listed many ways to move towards independence, which also meant self sustainability, self reliance and self worth. The main motto of VSE Independence Day celebration was “celebrate your independence by practicing it”. The children listed out many ways to move towards the concept of independence, which also meant self sustainability, self reliance and self worth. Students of the Rehabilitation Centre of Vydehi also participated, carrying banners calling for empathy and inclusion. The passion and energy level of the students were contagious and the staff had their share of fun too in the Independence Day Celebrations.